Smacking a Child
When I was growing up, smacking was the way parents “disciplined” children. While some parents lost their tempers and hit the child with such force that injuries were caused, I never experienced any injuries. If we were disobedient at school, the teacher would hit us – perhaps with the “cane” or stick. Sometimes it would be a whack on the hand, and sometimes boys were smacked on their bottom.
Smacking has been banned in around 65 countries around the world, according to Wikipedia, but in most countries, it is an acceptable way to discipline a child. Click here for information. When it was banned in Australia, several years ago, the message was that children who were smacked were likely to become violent adults. I recall being amazed at that for I was aware of smacking being the method of choice by parents during my growing up days. Everyone I knew, who had been brought up in the times of my childhood, and had been smacked, were not violent. My sister and I, smacked by our mother, have not been violent.
My experience is that smacking worked. I didn’t “belt” my children, I would use my hand and smack them just once or twice. Never was there any blood or bruising. I do remember that I did not “enjoy” smacking my children – in fact, I was very uncomfortable about it, but to this day, I am pleased that I did so, when appropriate.
I have no expertise in the field of child punishment, but I felt strongly that a quick smack (doing no damage to the child) was an affective way to discipline a child. But I never believed the stories in the media, that children who were smacked became violent.
How do parents teach children the difference between right and wrong?
The Naughty Corner? I doubt if that worked for everyone – and I thought that this style of discipline was more punishment for the parent. I saw several children punished this way, and I don’t believe that it was effective! I have read material about the new methods – one is here, I have seen children where the parents have used the new methods, but I didn’t see that they worked well. I still believe that a gentle smack to the hand, leg, or bottom worked.
So is the new method working? It concerns me that currently in Australia, we have a major problem with juvenile crime. Young people are stealing cars, breaking into houses and stealing items, and in some cases assaulting the people who thought they would be safe in their own homes.
The recent death of a South Australian well-respected doctor after his home was broken into and he was bashed is of great concern – it seems that so many juveniles have no concern for other people or their properties. How can such a valuable doctor be killed in this way?
Has Juvenile Crime increased due to a lack of Smacking?
In my mind, I am wondering if this new method of managing naughty children has failed. I have seen no discussion in the media, about the causes of this huge concern that is making people around the country feel unsafe. Juveniles bash and rob people in the shopping centres, streets and in their homes. Some places are set on fire. There have been several deaths too – leaving children without a parent, and destroying the happiness of families.
The police and courts are not coping with the massive increases in crimes committed by juveniles.
I wonder if parents have been unable to make the new system of discipline work for them. Have they been able to educate their children, so that they understand the risks to themselves of disobeying laws? I always remember at school being taught The Ten Commandments, which I remember to this day! There have been many “updates” of the commandments and I can’t easily find the words I recall.
To me the method of teaching children the difference between right and wrong is failing.
So what is next?
What do you think?